But do I really?

I've been on both sides of the table. I've been the working mom and I've been the stay at home mom. And it's easy for people to say oh "The stay at home mom" well shes got it made. Or oh "The working Mom" she has it made.... the stay at home mom ...She gets to sleep in, she gets to spend every waking second with her child, she gets to relax all day and play and joy ride and just do whatever she wants shes got it made! "The working mom"...She gets to go to work and have a few hours to herself without the kids, she gets to talk to adults, she gets to have her own money and buy herself things..she gets to eat take out twice or if she packs her lunch she gets to eat it hot and fresh.. she gets to sit on the toilet in peace...shes got it made!

But do I really? Does either of us really have it made?

"The Stay at Home Mom"

Do you think I enjoy watching my husband pay all the bills having to work over time to provide for us? Do you think I enjoy holding a child while I try to use the bathroom? Do you think I enjoy eating soggy cereal? Do you think I enjoy eating a cold lunch or no lunch at all because a little one was hungry or sleepy or hurt or running wild and I just didnt have time to eat it when it was made? Do you think I enjoy my house being torn apart all day long every day? Do you think I enjoy hearing kids crying and fussing constantly? Do you think I enjoy going to the store and not having my own money to spend? Do you think I enjoy never getting to buy myself something I want because I don't work and I have to budget the money I do get on bill's gas and groceries for the week? Do you think I enjoy not getting my hair cut and nails done or eye brows waxed? Do you think I enjoy taking kids in a store with me every single time I have to run to the store? Do you think I enjoy talking to only kids all day long? Staying home isn't all its cut out to be the first few weeks is wonderful and refreshing not to have to get up and get ready. Its wonderful spending some extra time with the kids..but the new wears off....Do I really have it made? Get a job then people say. ... but is it really just that easy? Should I still work even tho my entire check plus some goes to daycare.. should I still work even tho theres no one to pick my kids up from school and extended day closes before I get off work so they can't even attend afterschool? Should I still work only to lose my job bc I have to call out for sick kids all the time? Sometimes stay at home moms have no other choice but stay at home...

"The Working Mom"

Do you think I enjoy going to work every day? Do you think I enjoy dealing with people all day long? Do you think I enjoy missing my kids? Do you think I enjoy missing a program at school? Do you think I enjoy someone else practically raising my child bc I have to go to work? Do you think I enjoy packing a sandwich for lunch or nothing at all because I'm running late and have to make it to work on time..or we was busy and had to work through lunch? Do you think I enjoy watching my child kick and scream as I drop them off at daycare because they want me? Do you think I enjoy making money only for most of it if not all of it to be used on daycare and afterschool expenses? Quit your job and stay at home people say... but is it really that easy? Should I quit my job even tho I wouldn't be able to put food on the table? Should I quit even tho it would make my husband struggle? Should I really quit even tho I wouldnt be able to put gas in my car or pay a bill that needs to be paid.. sometimes quitting is not an option...

There are so many different situations out there and it's so easy to get caught up in the jealousy of how another mom has it made but do we really know their situation? Do we really understand what they go through emotionally, mentally, and physically? Just because something seems to be one way from the outside looking in doesn't always mean it is that way..

The one thing all Moms have in common is that we are a MOM! We all have days where we don't get to eat for whatever the reason.. we all have times where we don't get to do things for ourselves because money is tight! We all have days like my day yesterday where I went nonstop didn't get the kitchen cleaned or a load of laundry done bc I was busy with both babies all morning up until they went to sleep at 8:30 last night and I was so exhausted that I fell asleep completely dressed in jeans and all with no shower! No one said life with kids would be easy.. but despite whether I work or stay home I don't regret having kids! Show other moms respect.. talk to them... lean on each other... mommying ain't no walk in the park. All moms have good days .. all moms have bad days but all moms should do what's best for her family whether it's working long hours or staying home with them... both moms are equally important and wonderful. If your struggling with the decision to become a stay at home mom or to get a job pray about it. Pray hard about it. The Lord will never stear you in the wrong direction! Pray for other moms too because we need it! This life isn't easy but it's a beautiful ride! Your doing what you have to do so get up, get ready and get out the door with a smile on your on face this morning because you my friend are a mom and that's what Moms do!! people are watching.. little people and big people you are a inspiration to someone I promise! So do your thang girl!